Savita was confused as to why her 15 year old daughter Kanu has asked to meet her in the park. She has taken an hour break from the office to meet her own daughter. Suddenly she realises it has been pretty long since she had a proper conversation with Kanu. She had been so busy with her work and office that she has no time for her own kids. She remembers how desperate she was to restart her career when her younger son finished his Kindergarten. She just wanted to run away from the confines of her own house and make a mark of her own. And once she joined the corporate sector, there was no looking back. She worked hard, got promoted, got incentives, started going on International trips and was now a manager of a well known company. Amidst all this, she had lost some wonderful moments with her kids. But now she was thinking were it some wonderful moments only that she missed or did she miss knowing her kids altogether? She returns home after they sleep and goes to work every morning before they wake up. On weekends either she is busy with her company work or the kids have one of their activity classes. Although there are two maids to take care of kids but she was now contemplating on how could she rely upon them?
Today her daughter called at Office and asked to meet her urgently. “What could be the reason? Does she have a boy friend? Is someone upsetting her? Is she alright? Hopefully she is not facing any trouble at School or Tuition classes”, she was racking her brains to get an idea what her daughter would say to her. Even though she remains busy, she has never missed talking to her kids’ teachers asking about their academic reports.She clearly remembers talking to her daughter’s teachers just few days back and was really proud when they told her she is doing exceptionally good in studies. She has been eating well too as per the maid’s reports. She has been exercising enough in her swimming classes and is keeping fit according to their family doctor’s report last month. So what could be the matter?
She is reminisced of the day Kanu was born. That day Savita was also reborn as a mother. The birth of first child is always memorable and special for any mother. She could feel goosebumps thinking of the time just before Kanu’s birth. The pain was intolerable. She was crying, yelling but still happy and ecstatic. The moment she held Kanu in her arms, it felt as if she doesn’t need anything else. She was a mother which is the most wonderful phase of a woman’s life. How scared she was to hold her tiny baby and how anxious she would get while cutting the nails of her baby in those initial days. She still remembers how she cried the whole day and night in guilt when 2 months old Kanu fell from the bed once.
She was lost in her thoughts when suddenly she felt a touch on her shoulders. It was Kanu. Yes, her daughter Kanu, all red faced and teary eyed. Savita quickly hugged her and asked “What happened Kanu? Are you ok?” “No, I am not, Mumma, Can I just be with you?”, cried Kanu. Savita suddenly goes back to the time when Kanu caught fever for the first time at the age of 1 and a half years. She cried and cried and just wanted her Mumma around. Savita used to sit for the whole night carrying Kanu in her lap and won’t even move for the fear of waking her up. And now she so wanted to go back in time and relive those wonderful motherhood moments.
“Do you remember Kanu when we went to Zoo for the first time. You were so much scared of the Elephant ride and kept your eyes shut for the whole time”, Savita tried to distract her. “No, Mumma I was not scared. I was just feeling sleepy”. Suddenly Kanu started crying again and then said,” Yes, Mumma I was scared like I am today.” Now Savita was getting more worried and had to force Kanu to tell her the reason.
‘Mumma, there’s something wrong with me. My clothes were all soaked with blood in the morning. Sunita aunty said I am not a little girl anymore. I am feeling so uncomfortable and these stomach cramps…’, Kanu was sobbing and hugged her Mumma once again. Savita was shocked at her own denial. How could she miss talking about such an important subject of Menarche with her girl. How could she forget that her little girl is growing up and needs her Mumma more than anyone else. Was work so much important for her even more than her daughter?
Do you spend enough time with your kids?